Christmas Message with Love

December 2007

Dear Friends

Anne Marie's Personal Message
It is so good to visit with you again. I wish to thank you for visiting my website. You will notice the many changes and helpful Affirmation information and resources available to you.

Christmas can be a wonderful time for some and yet it can also be a very sad time of the year for others.

Christmas 2007 is just around the corner, and it can be a time of joy, giving and receiving.

I would like to share some ideas how to create the best ever Christmas.

Also I feel that if you are short of money, you still have time to make those wonderful home-made Christmas gifts. I appreciate them even more than the bought gifts as I know how much time, energy and love that people put into the making of them. This way you can still share Christmas gifts even if you don't have a great deal of money in your pocket. I hope you will find some helpful information in my Hints For Making Your Christmas a Little Happier and Less Stressful.

At this time I want to acknowledge those people who are suffering from broken relationships; death of a family member or dear friend; or struggling with health, family or money issues that can be very depressing especially at this time of year.

This Christmas and Holiday Season especially remember that it is very important to enjoy every minute you have with your family and special people in your life on Christmas or at any time as we never know if that could be the last time we will see or be with that person in this lifetime. It behooves us not to worry if we did not get the exact gift that we wanted. Use the slogan - "Do not sweat the small stuff." Never allow disappointments to spoil the spirit, joy and meaning of Christmas.

Always remember that 'The very best gift of all,' is being together enjoying each others' company.

It is a time to remember people less fortunate and to give as you are able. If you are unable to give money, you can give of your time and energy by sending positive and happy thoughts to others in need and lending that helping hand or flashing a cheery and bright smile.

You cannot change the entire world, but you can change your corner of it, one loving thought at a time one kind act at a time and one smile at a time and allow this kindness to ripple out in all directions. You can spread joy, courage and hope too many others through the positive ripple effect.

It has been proven that one person can make a difference and that some remark you said to a person previously or now may be just what they needed to hear at the time. This holiday season please make a conscious decision and effort to make a positive difference in your part of the world.

You may have heard in the media the high suicide rate during the holidays. The message is especially powerful for anyone feeling that down in life. If that could be you or a family member make sure to email me after you read this newsletter and I will share some kind loving and helpful thoughts with you.

I truly believe that when we send happy, positive and uplifting thoughts to another, even if at that particular time they are not able to receive and take them in, that those thoughts will stay in their aura and when they are open to receive, those thoughts will make their way into that person's heart, life and being.  These wonderful thoughts are never lost!

It is not what happens to us in life that counts; it is how we handle what happens to us.

Before I share my Christmas Hints with you –

AFFIRMATION NEWS
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Sharing a Christmas Email
From one of my Radio Listeners on the West Coast

Dear Dr. Evers
Christmas is coming and I am so stressed. My doctor told me that I must slow down and try and handle my negative stress. I want my husband and two teenage daughters to have a great Christmas. I am so angry at my mother for always ruining our Christmas with her nit-picking and criticism. Not one of us can do anything right in her eyes. And she always spends Christmas with us. Do you have any ideas? I always listen to your show and respect your views. Millie from Oak Harbor, WA

Dear Millie
Thank you for your email and kind words. How about giving yourself some loving kindness and lightning up on yourself?

First of all forgive yourself for trying to be perfect and have a perfect life. And forgive yourself for not being perfect, because forget it because you never will be perfect. No one ever accomplished this, in my opinion until they leave the planet.

Remember Millie we cannot change others, we can only change the way in which we view that other person. You cannot change your mother, but you can change the way you think and act towards her. When we are angry that anger seems to hang in the atmosphere and impede any happiness. Have you tried talking to your mother using the Sandwich approach?

Sandwich Approach Method

One slice of bread is the honest appreciation. For example you could say, "Mom, you are such a great cook, baker (or whatever she is good at) and then for the ingredient you could say, "And it makes the family feel inadequate when you make remarks about how we do things, and the other slice of praise would be and "I know you don't want to do that because you are a wonderful person." You know the words that will work with your own mother.

Now let's talk about forgiveness. Forgiveness heals even the deepest of wounds. Forgiveness (some say it is selfish because it benefits mostly the person doing the forgiving.)

Forgiveness is very powerful. When you forgive, your energy changes the physical structure of your cells and DNA. When you are embroiled in guilt, shame, or depression, you close down the energy systems of your body. All types of negative problems can erupt.
Forgiveness is a process of untangling mental and emotional parts of your being.
Forgiveness reduces stress, lowers blood pressure, increases well-being, and promotes good health. It can also reduce the risk of cancer and other diseases. Forgiveness is private. It is not necessary or advisable to tell people that you are forgiving them. Forgiveness is not ego, although some people say forgiveness is selfish because it largely benefits the person doing the forgiving.

Also remember Millie you are not in this alone, you can have a great deal of help from your husband and girls. All you need do is Ask, believe and then accept their help. Oh yes, it may not be exactly the help you THINK you need but believe me it will be help.

Teenagers are old enough to help with the Christmas decorating, gift buying and wrapping, decorating for Christmas and with the Christmas Dinner and festivities.

Maybe you have never thought of asking for help because perhaps this was the way your mother did it, handled it all herself. Well this is YOUR family and perhaps it is time for a change and make your own Family Christmas Tradition. If Mom is all stressed out, how can there be happiness and peace in the family?

Learn to meditate. Take at least 15-20 minutes for yourself every morning to sit quietly with yourself and relax. Say the word, "Peaceful" over and over and when other thoughts come into your mind, just keep on repeating the word over and over.

P. S. Oh please be sure to tell yourself that you will wake up in 20 minutes or so, or you could be gone for a longer period of time.

Of course we all want our families to be happy and especially at Christmas time. Communication, communication, communication ASK, ASK, ASK It is so important in all relationships. Good luck Millie and keep on Affirming. With Love and Blessings Dr. Anne Marie Evers

I would like to share with you some things that have really helped me with the Christmas Season over the years and it is my hope and Affirmation that some of them will help you as well.

SOME HOLIDAY HINTS

To Help to Make Your Christmas Season a little Happier and More Peaceful.

1.
Wrapping gifts
When wrapping your Christmas gifts this year, stop for a moment and put thoughts of love and kindness into the wrapping paper and the gift itself. As you tie the brightly colored ribbons saturate them with thoughts of love, peace, joy and happiness.

2.
Enjoying the great gifts of all at Christmas –

• Watching your children or grandchildren on Christmas Eve or Christmas morning;
• Watching children sit on Santa's knee in the Shopping Malls;
• Enjoying the lovely Christmas music;
• Enjoying a chat with a friend;
• Giving that busy Christmas shopper, sales assistant other drivers and just everyone you meet the gift of your smile;
• Sharing a cheery greeting with another;
• Watching children as they sit on Santa's knee.

3.
Christmas Traditions
Make up your own Christmas Traditions.  One lady created her own Christmas tradition. She puts her kid's first baby clothes -- daughter's dress and son's sweater on the Christmas Tree, remembering Baby Jesus who was born on Christmas day.

You could make it your Family Christmas Tradition to help out at the Food bank or a Soup Kitchen as a family project.

4.
Fun Games
Prepare green and red envelopes and write on pieces of paper things you can offer your children that do not cost money such as spending time together, reading, drawing, camping, shopping, traveling together, etc. -- things that you children would want and enjoy.

Leave some envelopes empty for your children so they can fill them with their own ideas and desires.

Over spending at Christmas –
This is something most of us do and especially us with children. Our children see an expensive toy or electronic gadget advertised and they want it. We try to please our children and over spend and then when the bills arrive in January, we become all stressed out and beat ourselves up. What are we doing here? Yes, it is important to spend money, especially for the stores, employees, etc. to keep money circulating, but is it so important for us to push ourselves to the limit and then make ourselves sick over it at bill time?

This year, be realistic. If you really cannot afford those expensive gifts, sit down with your children and explain it to them in a way that they can understand. Ask for their help. What could they substitute that item for. Could they work and earn some money towards it? This way you are teaching your children valuable money lessons that will follow them into adulthood.

5.
Do the Magic Magnetic Christmas Circle Exercise Procedure
Get up in the morning, stretch, take several deep breaths, breathing out negativity and breathing in positivity, happiness, peace and joy. Stand in front of the window and with both of your arms outstretched from your sides and turn slowly around from left to right (clockwise) and say,

"I, (your name) now magnetize from the sun, moon stars and the entire solar system and universe into my magic magnetic circle (aura) peace, joy love, health happiness and prosperity to myself which extends to everyone I meet. Thank you, thank you, thank you."

6.
Decorate
Decorate your house. Bright cheery decorations have a way of generating and encouraging general happiness.

7.
That Back Up Plan
Be organized. Have a back-up plan in place when asking people to bring items for Christmas dinner. For example -- If you ask someone to bring the cranberries, have a tin of cranberries on hand just in case they forget. This little hint can make your life easier.

8.
Togetherness
Do things together as a family. Invite family members to help set the table for Christmas dinner. Do your Christmas baking together inviting all members of your family to help. This gives them an investment and a feeling that they are helping to create happiness during this Holiday time.

9.
Your Christmas Tree
Pick out your Christmas tree and involve the whole family when decorating it. It is fun to make homemade decorations out of popcorn, etc. Make sure you use energy saving lights whenever possible.

10.
The Gifts
Be happy with the gifts you receive. Live in an attitude of gratitude.
Think before your return your gifts – oh yes if it is a gift of clothing the wrong size and colour, then by all means. I know one lady who returns every single Christmas present she ever receives. Family members and others who know this stopped buying her gifts and now they just give her Gift Cards.

11.
The Christmas Carols
Enjoy singing Christmas Carols as a family. Go out in your neighbourhood and do caroling.

12.
The Meaning of Christmas
Share with your family the true meaning of Christmas. Teach your children that giving is a part of receiving. It is great to receive gifts and it is also wonderful to give gifts and see the excitement on the other person's face when they open the package.

13.
Be Thankful
Count your blessings and focus on them – all the wonderful family and people in your life and the good things you have. You will bring more of the same to you through the Law of Attraction which states, 'What you think about you bring about; More gathers more; Like attracts like; and What you are seeking is seeking you."

14.
Keep on doing your Affirmation Process
It is so important to keep on doing your Affirmations during this time daily. You can create Short-form Affirmations that you can say all day, such as, "I am happy; I am cheerful; Things are working out for me' I get things done easily and effortlessly; I eliminate negative stress, etc. etc.

Just a quick note to say that Affirmations are similar to prayers, wishes or goals. To affirm is to make firm and simply put the basis of all Affirmations is positive thinking. We are doing Affirmations every moment of our lives, whether we are aware of it or not. As I say in my books and writings, 'Affirmations When Properly Done Always Work.' However sometimes they do not work in our time frame or as we think they should. Look back on your life and see how many Affirmations (prayers) that you are happy that did not manifest. Remember the song, 'Thank God for some unanswered prayers?'

15.
Lighten Up on Yourself!
Don't beat yourself up with 'Could haves, Should haves, Why didn't I's etc. Give yourself a huge does of loving kindness. Don't expect others to think or act as you do. When you feel you are over the top - - overwhelmed, stop and visualize these four words on the back of one of your rings. 'This Too Shall Pass,' and it does, together with the good and happy times. That is what we call life.
Enjoy a hot chocolate in front of the fireplace. Stop and smell the roses. Enjoy every single moment.

See the Bright Side of life. If you can laugh about it down the pike, why not laugh about it now?

16.
Be Kind
Practice Random Acts of Kindness daily. Give to the Empty stocking fund, Salvation Army, help out a soup kitchen in your neighborhood, etc.
You can also give a cheery smile or word and lend a helping hand to another person in need. A smile does not cost a thing and it could mean the world to someone.

17.
For the Ladies
Take time for a long and luxurious bubble bath. Light a candle, sit back and enjoy.

18
Stay Positive
Read something positive Enjoy some quiet time, Meditate, read a book. Ask your Christmas Angel to be with you.

19.
Lend a Helping Hand
Knit a warm sweater, scarf or mitts for a homeless person.

19.
Be Courteous
Yield the right of way to another driver. One day when I was stopped at a Yield sign waiting, another driver yelled out the window, "The sign says yield lady, not give up!"

20.
Give honest appreciation
When a person does something nice for you, tell him or her that you appreciate it. Also when you see something nice about another person, do not be afraid to compliment them. There is a big difference between flattery and honest appreciation.

21.
Do some Christmas forgiving
One of my friends who owns a store was asked to write on a list what she would like for Christmas and she wrote, "Harmonious staff." I wonder what members of her staff thought when they read out her wish. Perhaps it is time to let go of that old hurt or disappointment from years past. Why hang on to it? Give yourself a wonderful and special Christmas gift this year and that is of freedom from past hurts. Try it on it fits great and feels good!

22.
Go to church
Worship at the place of your choice. Some people love to go to church, others love to take a walk in the woods and enjoy God's handiwork and meditate on the goodness of life, nature and beauty.  Do whatever pleases you and opens your spiritual awareness.

23
Make Home made gifts

I really appreciate home made gift even more than bought gifts.

 Sample Christmas Affirmation

"I, (your name), deserve and now am happy and fulfilled. I greet every day with excited expectancy and enthusiasm. I am grateful to be alive, healthy and present here on planet earth at this time. I forgive and let go of all past hurts, negativity and unhappiness. I now walk into my circle of happiness. I make this Christmas holiday Season and New Year 2008 the best ever. I am alive. I am here I am present in the now and I count. I am happy to the good of all parties concerned. Thank you, thank you, thank you."

I fully accept
Signed  __________________________________
Dated  ___________________________

My Christmas and Year 2008 Affirmation for you
"You have and enjoy a happy and blessed Christmas Holiday Season and a Health, Happy Prosperous and fulfilled year 2008!

With love & Blessings
Dr. Anne Marie Evers

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